We look forward to the holidays for the time spent with family and friends, eating our favorite foods and participating in special rituals that give us a sense of belonging. For adoptees and children in foster care, these aspects of the holidays can bring painful memories and reminders of the people and connections they are missing.

Often, these feelings are confusing and misunderstood. Adults may see a grieving child as angry or unappreciative. It is crucial that caregivers and those who support these youth not shy away from difficult conversations and the complexity that this season brings. Just having a caring adult listen and help the child name their feelings can be a powerful tool for healing.

VOICES includes these topics in our education track that is specific for CASA volunteers, such as the upcoming live webinar with Katie Wynen, an adoption social worker, who will focus on this topic of holiday rituals and traditions. CASA volunteers will learn the language of support and how to approach these conversations with youth in order to send an important message of validation.

To learn more about rituals and holiday traditions as they relate to adopted children and families, visit Pact, An Adoption Alliance.